My job occupies a large amount of my time. Last year I spent roughly 50% of my time away from home for work purposes. When I am home, I spend time on my own, or with family and friends. And my group of friends is mostly a small, well knit group, without lots of new people to meet. And I am not the type to lurk in bars trying to meet people. So this pretty much narrows my dating pool to random encounters and co-workers.
Fortunately I work at a good place with lots of eligible bachelorettes. But unfortunately, I have never really grown comfortable with the idea of dating someone I work with. Even in my office there have been several successful office romances. But, I am still unsure about it for many reasons.
I think one reason is that I am a pretty private person. At work I have my more professional appearance. It is hard for my nerdy core to come out. Opening up to a potential romantic partner at work seems daunting enough. But if that partner is a co-worker then it seems like you are opening up to a whole lot more people, because relationships are what people talk about in an office (among other things).
Another reason is the possibility of it going horribly wrong. What if the relationship ended with a really bad breakup. You would still have to see that person all the time. You might not be able to keep your personal and professional feelings separate. What if it was bad enough that one person had to leave their job over it?
And perhaps a silly reason, is that there is too much choice! I feel like with office romances you kind of only have one shot at it. What if you pick the wrong person, and it doesn't work out? If you bugger it up, you can't just jump to the next person. This isn't Mad Men. I don't think the modern professional environment operates on that level. Or maybe it does and I am just oblivious to all the inter-office shenanigans.
Or maybe these reasons are just excuses for me to avoid taking a chance.
What does everyone else think? Is dating a co-worker something to go for, or avoid?